Source of article: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-37143879
A diary through a transgender mind.
Inside the mind.
Insecurities.
I feel so trapped and powerless inside this body. I’m lost within my own body and every time I look into the mirror it’s like looking at someone else. I hate myself but there’s nothing I can do about it.
I imagine myself to be a woman every day, how it feels to walk down the street wearing high heels, with a pink dress and be happy with it. But I’m not.
I envy those who are happy with their assigned body, gender because they get to be who they are while I can’t even come out to my parents.
It was hard growing up desperately wanting to be a girl. It was wrong but it felt so right. Society told me that it’s just my puberty thinking, and hearing my friends telling me that I need help with my mental state. I thought I was going mad because of those words kept reminding me that I was wrong.
I had a dream. And it was so beautiful.
I was a woman. A gorgeous one and I’m happy with my body like I’ve never felt before. I got to wear my mom’s make-up and she would look me in the eyes saying “You’re so beautiful, darling”. Then I went shopping for some dresses, shoes and people would give me compliments saying how pretty I am. I never had the confident to walk down the street and just be happy without any struggles within me, but then I did.
And for that brief moment, I no longer hated how I look.
Oh the joy.
I miss that dream, as I woke up and cried to myself, asking why can’t I be happy.
I came out to my parents. I don’t know what I’m feeling right now. Fear? Shame? Relief?
They hated me for being transsexual, they told me I’m ‘disgusting’ and they asked whether I wanted therapy for my ‘condition’ because that’s wrong for me to ‘be transsexual’. Should I go?
It’s been a year since I last talked to you. Miss me? Because I do, so much to talk about.
I went to therapy for 4 months and he convinced me that it was only a state of misleading thoughts in my life like how people want to commit suicide, he said that I WANTED to be transsexual. Funny.
He also gave me some hormone replacement medicine. I felt sick, horrified, disgusted and exhausted. And I thought maybe it could make me feel better about my sexuality, desperately.
I didn’t. Never have.
On another note, I moved out. It bounds to happen, I could never live under a roof that hormone replacement treatment is the ‘right’ thing. I miss my parents so much but I know I could never be accepted as who I am.
Would you have done the same?
It’s so sad how I tried so hard finding a job and every time I identify myself as female they would not even consider me. The injustice.
The only way for me is to be a sex worker. To find a new house, to continue my life, to be a woman.
It’s Pride Day today. There was a parade, a huge one.
I could not possibly describe to you how happy I am. For the first time, I’m not wrong anymore, I’m right. For being who I am. There are still a lot of conflicts against the LGBTQI community but everyone just ignored it because they don’t have to live in shame anymore. It feels like for that 24 hours, you can be whoever you are and you can be proud of it.
It’s hard not ‘being’ straight in Turkey.
I got to meet loads of people with my same struggles, my same feeling, and it was wonderful. Not that the issues are wonderful but I finally know how share my problems, with no fear and only acceptance.
I was abused. For the first time.
I was abused. Again.
I was abused. For how long now… I lost count.
It was my choice to be a sex worker, and it was me that wanted to move out but I feel so low. It’s like I was forced by myself to sell my dignity, my body – so I call it abuse. Caused by me. Mentally.
You can’t expect people to be nice to your body, they treat you like a one night stand, no more no less.
Life is not a movie. You can’t have a musical to forget your doubts, you work your way through poverty. At least, I can afford not to live outside the street and I’m aiming that these money will help me with my operation.
I hope…
I’m half way to my goals.
I’m half way to be who I am.
Am I?
Then why do I still feel so empty…
I was fined.
While I was trying to earn a living, the police detained me and took me to the police station. They gave me fines. I couldn’t pay them of course. I didn’t pay them. On the one hand, the government tells me to stay off the streets, to not be a prostitute; on the other hand, they keep on giving me these fines. In order to be able to pay the fines, I need to do even more prostitution work. I have so much debt, not even health services or insurance…
The struggles…